A Heroine's Tale

I’m Deg Ajeet Kaur - sacred Princess/Lioness of God who overcomes every obstacle by embodying graciousness, hospitality and kindness in the world.  Sounds like an exciting adventure novel – a novel I would like to read.  Oh, it’s me?  I’m the heroine of this story? Um.  Can’t my novel be a Rom Com?


We can’t choose our story from the shelf – it’s handed to us – it’s assigned reading. The heroine theme guides me, though, as I turn the pages, using my daily practice for foundation.  My name, my sadhana and a healthy lifestyle give me strength.  While it’s not an easy read, it’s a challenge I can rise to through repetition and taking it slow.  The discipline is the adventure – an adventure that goes in, up and out.   

I’m learning to see, read and digest the words of my life as they are presented to me.  I used to only read the words that were easy to understand.  If I didn’t like a prose and found it too difficult or painful, I skimmed it or jumped to the next paragraph.  Conversely, if I read a paragraph before I was ready, my mind would take care of me by forgetting the content.  I used to think some of my chapters were punishment -- that I did something to deserve them. I found it hard to accept plot lines and pages from long ago.   But it’s getting easier.  The dark parts, the hard spots and the rough edges are themes in my novel.  A story.  And we all have one. 

With reflection a subplot is revealed.  Maybe it was forgotten – or perhaps never remembered – but its impact is the subtext of subsequent story-lines.  Like a book sitting on a shelf for years – it was always there. And then one day, seemingly randomly, it was noticed and pulled off the shelf.  Something about it piqued curiosity that particular day in that particular moment.  The book is opened with trepidation and bravery.  Curled up in the corner, the book is read until it’s completed and then a wondering of why it was never noticed on the shelf – even though it was there since long ago – it was always there.  It sat patiently, waiting to be picked up when the time was right to answer questions that hadn’t been asked yet.  Questions that couldn’t be asked until now.  We all have our bookshelf.  Some of the books have been read many times – the pages curled and stained from repeated review.  Some are unopened, standing tall with a stiff spine – waiting to be cracked open for the first time.

This year, my reading assignments were a slow, deliberate read.   The content was difficult but I was ready to take on the text.  It demanded to be read again and again until the lesson was digested.  I read the same words day after day, month after month and even when I knew in my mind that it was time to move to the next chapter, and it felt like the whole world knew it too and I could recite the passages from memory, my heart wasn’t ready and I found myself back at the introduction again with the same questions and the same confusion and the same need for understanding, review and reassurance.  The words almost became like a mantra that had to be repeated and processed, reverberated through my cells to fully embody its content.  The repetition felt maddeningly slow and I didn’t know how many times I would have to read it to be finished.  Or other times, I’d read a few sentences, feel very fatigued, put down the book and move onto an easier chapter, until I felt fortified for the tougher read.  And then one day, it all came together. The confusing plot lines connected in a way that was understood and clear.  The lesson landed firmly in my body.  I was ready to complete the reading, like a final review before the test.  The test of life. The test of action. To finally let it go. To release it and move forward for the next plot line. It’s a relief.  It took a long arduous time to process, accept, release and let go of the theme. 

That’s when I coach myself in the third person.  When I’m ready to embody the lesson and feel really close to getting there, I ask my wise, inner self to guide me.  To remind me, empower me, believe in me.  My inner voice helps me stand taller, reach higher, breathe deeper, trust more, and feel my sturdiness.  The wise voice breaks through my need to re-read the chapter – and assures me that I don’t need to read it anymore.  I am ready to not only understand the lesson, but to be the lesson.  The lesson is made physical in my footsteps, my voice, in my action and in my aura. The difficult passages add to a wondrous story – rich in character.  The narrative makes me humble, compassionate, knowing, seeing, forgiving and deeply loving.

I face my path without the crutches I used to rely on. Breathing life in, as it is – daring to see and feel what is happening – and not through a watered-down version to match what I think I can handle – takes discipline.  Reading each paragraph in front of me – and not skipping sentences -- is a disciplined practice. I can read slowly, with intention and take rests as needed.  I feel the emotions that the words evoke.  I cry, rest, dig in my garden, laugh with my friends, study, love my children and practice sadhana with my elderly cat, Nico, who is near the end of his life.  With practice, I can absorb life’s content real-time, detach and let it flow and spend less time looking back to do re reads.  I’m thinking that my next difficult reading assignment will be a little easier on me – because that’s part of my lesson.  To trust.

I can revisit each one of the most painful moments in my life and find the offering in the artifacts.  We all can – when the time is right.  I examine the words in those challenging chapters and pick up the crystal, the sea glass, the flower or the scent in each one.  I wear it on a string around my neck, I feel it in the palm of my hand, I plant it in my garden, dab some on my wrists and breathe in its exotic essence.  The essence of everything being as it should be. The aroma of relaxed power.

At a point in my life, I thought I knew the next chapter – and I had some idea of the ending too.  All the threads tied up together into a pretty multi colored ribbon, free of break ups, climate change, inequality and epic surprises. There are books on the shelf that will be opened at the perfect moment.  I’ll maintain the practice.  Be in nature.  Breathe with my heart.  Trust my knowing and dare to see and feel what is in front of me.

I’m the heroine. It’s my story.  It’s intended to be as it is. 


The theme for my June blog assignment from the 3HO blog (Association for Kundalini Yoga) is “Karma vs Dharma: Choose Your Path.”  

“Rather than see­ing karma as a punishment, one can view it as the gateway into the human experience through which we can shift into dharma. It is said that even the angels envy this opportunity for incarnation.”
-The Level 1 Aquarian Teacher Training Manual 

“When karmas remain, so do you. Karma has to become dharma. Dharma is where the account is cleared. It is where your discipline and commitments make you positive and graceful. Then you break out of your cocoon and become a leader, elevate all, and leave a legacy. That ability to turn negative into positive, to support all your actions with your facets and manners is the result of meditation. It comes with the refined mind. It is what develops through sadhana (pre dawn practice), aradhana (glorifying spirit); through jappa (meditative, repetitive mantra) and discipline.”
-Yogi Bhajan, The Level 1 Aquarian Teacher Training Manual 

“The Cosmos works for those who have discipline, who have longing, who have some goal to reach in their lives, and who make a constant, constant, constant effort to reach it. That is dharma. Dharma is in every day, in every action, on every side of the day.” 




Part Time Warrior

being with rocks - exploring plaza blanca in abiquiu, nm - march 2019

being with rocks - exploring plaza blanca in abiquiu, nm - march 2019

This warrior’s armor is an aura.

With roots coming out of its feet.

Flowers and leaves in its hair.

A song floating from its lips.

There’s a readiness.

Daring to feel it all.  Take it on.

3:50 alarm and then a cold shower.

No matter how tired, questioning or confused.

A daily spring cleaning – sweeping out the dust.

Making space for peace, love, serenity and power.

 The protective coating slowly flakes off.

Revealing and then releasing whatever is stuck – from way back in the corners – like dust bunnies under a dresser.

Little by little they’re swept out the door.

But they aren’t all dust bunnies.

Some are heavier than that.

And a big heavy chunk can be released -- all at once.  It can surprise.  Thud, like a rock to a dirt road.

It goes to the red earth and is beautiful sitting there. 

Part of the landscape.  An artifact – solid, wise and old.


Some days, the warrior stumbles and can still skin a knee.

When there is a trigger – an old hurt somehow creeps back in.

It settles in for a moment.

With an urge to fall back.

But instead of falling – instead of scolding or running away – or getting mad at oneself

The warrior sits down with intention and lets the tears flow – like a cleanse – like warm waves washing over.

Without fear, knowing it’s temporary – it’s okay.

Rest. Sleep. Say a prayer. Go slow. Be quiet.

Stroke the warrior’s head. Cradle its face and smile into its eyes.


There’s a strength, looking humbly within.

Wanting to be better.

Daring to see the parts not needed anymore.

Giving thanks for their protection.

Saying goodbye and seeing them to the door.


The warrior breathes in strength from the earth.

And let’s go of the debris.

Starts the day with gratitude and sets positive intention.


The part time warrior –

This warrior’s armor is an aura.

With roots coming out of its feet.

Flowers and leaves in its hair.

And a song floating from its lips.

Note: My assignment for blogging for 3HO (kundalini blog) was “The Spiritual Warrior: Courage, Integrity and Grace.”

“These times are demanding that we  live as Spiritual Warriors—fearless, standing for truth, and lit from within by the radiance of the soul. The life of a spiritual warrior is a life of courage, compassion, strength and discipline. These qualities enable us to conquer our inner doubts and insecurities with steady determination and grace. In addition, as spiritual warriors we are called to stand up for the dignity and human rights of our neighbors, our communities, our nation and our planet.”

“As we are entering the Age of Aquarius, we have to become responsible, outspoken, leading teachers of this Age. That's what we have trained for and that's what we have grown into. You cannot live under a camouflage. You have to live openly, honestly, brightly, and forthrightly. Your words should be so strong that they affect every heart; your truth should be so pure that it lifts a person's soul to the heights.”
7/28/02 Yogi Bhajan